on friends

friendship for me is becoming more and more based on affinity, but that takes many forms.  Political affinity(which for me means being anti political) is just one form.  Most others are based on being interesting, funny, and having a similar sense of humor. I've had two visitors in my place from Canada for the past few weeks.  The great thing about having guests so frequently is that I get to make all sorts of connections with people with somewhat different experiences than me and they also can look on me and my friends and see things with a different perspective, and I in turn can look at their situation with my outsider perspective.  There is something valuable in this, at least while mired completed in society and it's bullshit.  Either way, they leave tomorrow morning and I will be sad.  We had a 2 month guest from Barcelona who I still think of often, because of the friendship he and I were able to development in a relatively short amount of time.  I will miss them, but their time here was awesome, and underscores to me how being stuck in linear time(in my mind) so much of my day is such bullshit, and can negatively effect my life.  I was talking to another roommate about being committed and staying in certain relationships for too long.  She stayed with someone who straight up told her one day on a walk, "I don't think I like you that much."  I stayed with someone who told me to my face, "I hate you."  Both of our stories are complicated by the complex thing a human being is, and by the fact that relationships between humans are even more complex, but there is still something there.  Why this desire for longevity in a life that is so brief and easily ended?  Do we stay in relationships because we are fighting death?  Do I stay in relationships out of some battle against my own mortality?  Do I believe in a life/death dichotomy?  Is that a wingnut theory?  I don't have good answers to these questions.  I only have more questions and more complications.